tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post2685031984835033421..comments2023-08-21T20:51:35.856+10:00Comments on The Write Obsession: Insecure Writer's Support Group: What Trolls BeneathLanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-68051374800048449792012-07-09T22:29:18.643+10:002012-07-09T22:29:18.643+10:00Yes!! That is totally it. How insecure are we?? Go...Yes!! That is totally it. How insecure are we?? Gotta work on being tougher. <br /><br />Before the whinging email, I have to email you about love interests!Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-36460067659311478632012-07-09T22:25:53.684+10:002012-07-09T22:25:53.684+10:00Ha! You're probably right. I'll be here fo...Ha! You're probably right. I'll be here for the email.<br /><br />I completely understand. I feel the same way. It's like when you have a deep talk with a boyfriend/guy/husband/whatever. They say all these nice thngs about you and then one day they say something like, "I love you to death, but sometimes you're just so darn emotional"...all you focus on is the fact that you're too emotional and he must hate you! Ha! It does suck.Sherrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05132055588504532128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-12791485818672546042012-07-08T21:53:45.770+10:002012-07-08T21:53:45.770+10:00It's not easy being a book blogger but it'...It's not easy being a book blogger but it's so rewarding. I have the utmost respect for book bloggers and their commitment to telling the truth about how they feel regardless of the repercussions. I don't think I've ever met a book blogger who goes out of their way to hurt a writer's feeling.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-34162036633327735932012-07-08T21:37:04.453+10:002012-07-08T21:37:04.453+10:00That's a good lesson to remember. Sometimes pe...That's a good lesson to remember. Sometimes people are just being mean. I don't think I'd ever write something that incites that kind of anger and I would be able to brush that off pretty easily. I just have to keep telling myself that I will find my target audience eventually!Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-63003042079380040602012-07-08T21:35:26.980+10:002012-07-08T21:35:26.980+10:00I've been trying to write good negative review...I've been trying to write good negative reviews for a long time! I handle it better when the characters don't do things which make me want to scream. I would totally understand if someone has this kind of problem with my book. Which I why I am trying as hard as I can not to write stupid characters!Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-68952196255515448072012-07-08T20:59:33.709+10:002012-07-08T20:59:33.709+10:00All press is good press isn't it? That's a...All press is good press isn't it? That's a really good point. Sometimes I will read a book just because people say it's so awful. <br /><br />I hate the thought of running my blog like a business as well. I'd love to review as many indie books as I can but there's just not enough time. I don't want to pressure any of my blogging friends to review my book either. I've been in that position and it's sometimes awkward if you don't completely love the book.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-37709946036670113682012-07-08T20:49:27.259+10:002012-07-08T20:49:27.259+10:00Sherre! You are so funny. I think the next worst t...Sherre! You are so funny. I think the next worst thing to a writer flipping out is getting their friends to flip out for them!! Expect a huge whingey email from me though when I get a bad review.<br /><br />It's so silly to think that I might get a 4 star review with one minor criticism and that criticism will be all I will focus on. Sucks.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-64784942930226723122012-07-08T13:19:29.886+10:002012-07-08T13:19:29.886+10:00I'm trying to mentally prepare for bad reviews...I'm trying to mentally prepare for bad reviews at the moment. Its strange how we have to prepare for the worst but No one writes posts on how to cope with great reviews and overwhelming success! Maybe dreaming is less important than preparing for reality.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-21166668529293000472012-07-08T00:06:41.915+10:002012-07-08T00:06:41.915+10:00I'm not really a crier. I'm more of a figh...I'm not really a crier. I'm more of a fighter. So I can see the danger I will be in with a bad review!Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-30175233561497137802012-07-07T12:01:50.064+10:002012-07-07T12:01:50.064+10:00I can't imagine being a book review blogger. I...I can't imagine being a book review blogger. I'm kinda blunt, and I'm afraid people would lynch me. And who wants to hurt other writers' feelings? Not me...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07735576044552810103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-26537923224757722192012-07-06T11:15:19.015+10:002012-07-06T11:15:19.015+10:00It's tough when someone hates your book. You W...It's tough when someone hates your book. You WANT to respond. But really, it's not the end of the world. I've had my fair share of them. If someone doesn't like your book, it's because he wasn't your target audience. And if he's just being mean, that's his problem, not yours.<br />You can handle it. I know you can.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-27140547435250030722012-07-06T05:14:24.653+10:002012-07-06T05:14:24.653+10:00Great post! Negative reviews are hard to write AND...Great post! Negative reviews are hard to write AND read! I am now more cautious when writing negative reviews and try to bring out the positive aspects in the novel. I am not a writer but if I ever decide to become an author I think it is important to be emotionally strong in terms of reviews. <br /><br /><a href="http://seeitorreadit.blogspot.ca/" rel="nofollow">SeeitORreadit</a><br>Jaskirat@SeeitORreadithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12022969251689585678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-12861208334566258412012-07-06T04:20:59.245+10:002012-07-06T04:20:59.245+10:00If I ever publish- If I ever publish I will be hap...If I ever publish- If I ever publish I will be happy someone is talking about my work. I am sure bad reviews would rip a hole in my chest, but I doubt I would comment on anything good or bad. Lately I happen to know people who are getting published, I feel strange saying, 'I don't want to review your book. It will make me want to be biased because I want you to do well.' I think what a lot of people don't get is that our blogs we sometimes run like a business, and if you mix that with personal stuff it gets testy... Well I have spiraled out of any kind of point I was going to make. Just remember that any press is good press, but lashing out is never a good thing. <br /><br />Beth ^_^Beth D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18032607556352052517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-17787564616215149722012-07-06T00:09:18.309+10:002012-07-06T00:09:18.309+10:00I wont let it happen!!!! If you get upset about a ...I wont let it happen!!!! If you get upset about a review, just feed your remorse to me and I'll take it from there, and flip out on them for you that way you have no worries. Problem solved! *wink*<br /><br />No but seriously, I understand where your coming from. As humans, we're all hardwired to defend and protect ourselves, our ideas, and our beleifs. It's only right for you to want to lash back. What we must all understand is that though we may want to do something, we shouldn't. If you feel you are about to say something you shouldnt, just stop, cut off the computer/close the window, and stay away for a little bit. Then go back and check out all your amazing reviews. It's sure to make you feel better. Remember that your book's great, but it's not going to be for everyone, so you will get bad reviews. Just accept them, hear what they say in terms of criticism, and perhaps use it to help make your next book greater, but dont take it to heart.<br /><br />If that doesnt work, my first offer still stands!Sherrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05132055588504532128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-66294011272793741822012-07-05T13:17:50.604+10:002012-07-05T13:17:50.604+10:00I'm not a writer, but I definitely know that n...I'm not a writer, but I definitely know that nervous feeling of putting your best effort into something and hoping others will receive it kindly. I think what's important is to realize that with every author, regardless if they are published or indie, is going to get a bad review(s). No matter how good a book is, someone out there is going to not like it for some reason or another, so I think as long as you are mentally prepared to accept the fact that not everyone will like your book, you will be fine! (Of course, I hope most people will like it though!)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02288201479290735683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-12331691211556640612012-07-04T23:46:42.621+10:002012-07-04T23:46:42.621+10:00I don't know how I'd react if I ever got f...I don't know how I'd react if I ever got far enough to be able to receive a bad review. I'd most likely cry. A lot. I hope I wouldn't say anything online though.Jennifer Joycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14285381115807201869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-12033010195359378052012-07-04T22:40:27.442+10:002012-07-04T22:40:27.442+10:00I keep getting stuck in the middle of my own opini...I keep getting stuck in the middle of my own opinions. I totally get that authors are humans and reviews that say mean things about authors aren't okay. But saying something awful about an author and writing a negative review which points out why a book has horrible themes and the like are two different things. Some authors think bloggers bully them because they say that the book is terrible and don't recommend that people read it. If everyone was forced to be "nice" all the time, even when they're unhappy, we'd all be very repressed.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-79064426978346776792012-07-04T22:37:06.756+10:002012-07-04T22:37:06.756+10:00Luckily, I am not popular enough for authors to no...Luckily, I am not popular enough for authors to notice the not so complimentary reviews I write. For the books that I don't feel strongly about either way, I'm always able to be objective in my reviews. But books with really horrible themes of abuse and the like really annoy me and I can't help but say some harsh things! Some of that stuff that has gone down on Goodreads is terrible. What really gets me is how clueless and self righteous some authors are. They just can't see how much good bloggers are doing for the business and how amazingly honest and forgiving most bloggers are. I suppose I have the advantage of being a book blogger myself to remind me to pull back when I get too emotional!Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-25383685147527350502012-07-04T22:33:03.370+10:002012-07-04T22:33:03.370+10:00Thanks Sarah! I am smart enough to be worried abou...Thanks Sarah! I am smart enough to be worried about my crazy behaviour!! LOL. You're right, I would be weirded out if I wrote a negative review and the author showed up and commented. Even if it was harmless. <br /><br />Sometimes I think I'll just stay away from the internet altogether afterwards. But then I remember that I can't just become more of a hermit and avoid everything!Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-46283439933122090882012-07-04T22:31:01.396+10:002012-07-04T22:31:01.396+10:00I fully intend to read the bad reviews with the in...I fully intend to read the bad reviews with the intention of improving my writing. I just have to get that thick skin first! <br /><br />You're so good to shrug off the comments on Goodreads. I don't think I could. Especially since I believe so strongly that reviewers should be able to say whatever they like.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-18744171741698339042012-07-04T22:29:31.456+10:002012-07-04T22:29:31.456+10:00You have such a great way of stripping down a prob...You have such a great way of stripping down a problem to its core. I should print out the mantra "reviews are for readers and books are for writers" to remind myself what it's all about.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-88963914549864455102012-07-04T22:26:00.113+10:002012-07-04T22:26:00.113+10:00Developing a thick skin in definitely the key. Whi...Developing a thick skin in definitely the key. Which is probably why I should read the 1 star reviews and process them and then learn to live with them. After all, thee are some incredibly popular books which I personally didn't like. So I shouldn't expect everyone to like my book.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-64881644891400333602012-07-04T22:23:56.656+10:002012-07-04T22:23:56.656+10:00Thanks Camille. I usually just write a whole bunch...Thanks Camille. I usually just write a whole bunch of stuff that I'm obsessing over at the moment :)<br /><br />I don't think I could resist reading the 1 star reviews. No matter how hard I tried. I know it's bad for me but I just can't help it! I know exactly how you feel when you say we only seem to look at the negatives. I got lots of good feedback for my MS and all I heard was "it's too much like THG"Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-20202406825337171112012-07-04T22:13:52.762+10:002012-07-04T22:13:52.762+10:00Thanks Molli. I'm counting on you guys to keep...Thanks Molli. I'm counting on you guys to keep me sane. No doubt there will be some sort of rant on here if I lose my cool :)Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2249141384507760517.post-91027459833049582362012-07-04T22:12:18.026+10:002012-07-04T22:12:18.026+10:00I feel like every review I write is a struggle to ...I feel like every review I write is a struggle to separate myself as a writer and a reader/reviewer. I'm constantly struggling with whether I should try and be *nicer* but at the end of the day I can only be me. <br /><br />I'm sure there will be moments when I'm tempted to leave comments but I will keep this post as a reminder not to get too hot headed.Lanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00002224549199474383noreply@blogger.com